Good article. extracted by LGG.
Well..i just got my promotion this year. so maybe i wont feel too much abt this article but i think it is a good article to know why aren't u promoted yet ?!?
What To Do When You're Passed Over for a Promotion
By Arlene S. Hirsch
Career ladders have largely disappeared in organizational life. Paths upward are clogged and promotions no longer automatically guaranteed. The result: stalled careers and disillusioned employees.
To put your career on an upward trajectory, you need to learn how to make the most of each situation. This includes knowing what to do when you get passed over for a promotion.
In a perfect work world, office politics don't exist, no one ever makes mistakes, and everyone who performs their job properly gets promoted. But the reality is that competence often takes a back seat to office politics, personality conflicts influence decisions, and the best person for a job isn't always the one who gets it.
The Role of Office Politics
A 28-year-old social worker in Chicago admits she had underestimated the importance of office politics before she encountered "the boss from hell." Despite the fact that she was admired and respected by many of her colleagues, co-workers and clients, she got passed over for a promotion she believed she deserved in favor of an outsider who knew nothing about the agency. While the newcomer had no social work experience, she had management skills that the social worker lacked.
Career counselor Janet Scarborough, founder of Bridgeway Career Development in Seattle, believes that individuals often underestimate the importance of organizational politics while overestimating the role of skills and accomplishments. "When you get passed over for a promotion," she says, "you need to ask yourself: 'Have I paid enough attention to the organizational structure?' Get comfortable with the idea that the interpersonal component matters." In other words, if you shun office politics, don't be surprised if you get passed over for promotions. People who are good at office politics are good at building relationships in organizations.
For the Chicago social worker, the first task was sorting out the personal disappointment from the professional ramifications. While she could see the value of hiring someone with management experience, she resented what she saw as the devaluation of her social-work experience. She also suspected that her personality clash with her boss hadn't helped her situation. She was even less sure about whether she'd be able to respect and work with this new manager whose style was so different from hers.
From the other side, her boss worried that the social worker might try to undermine the new manager's authority instead of providing valuable input and expertise. If she wanted to keep her job, she needed to focus on forging a strong relationship with this new manager. This meant setting aside her personal feelings and acting professionally. Still, it wasn't easy for her to continue working in a place where she felt she had no future.
Not getting promoted turned out to be a key to forcing her to re-evaluate her priorities and make necessary changes. When she was able to place the lost promotion in perspective, she realized that, despite her ambition to be promoted, she didn't want to be a manager. She really wanted to become a social-policy analyst.
It Can Feel Personal
Getting passed over for a promotion is almost always painful because the rejection feels so personal. But it may not be a reflection on your abilities at all. That's why it's important to get all the facts before you jump to conclusions. A 35-year-old marketing manager in New York City figured this out after getting passed over for a promotion on three different occasions, despite that, on paper, she was clearly the most qualified candidate for the job. The manager couldn't understand why apparently less-competent people kept getting promoted ahead of her, despite her outstanding achievement record with the company.
Because all the promotions had been given to less-qualified men, she felt she had only two options: file a lawsuit for discrimination or start looking for another job.
In such cases, proceed cautiously, says Lynn Friedman, a clinical psychologist in Bethesda, Md., who specializes in workplace issues. If you're a member of a minority group who has been turned down repeatedly for promotions despite stellar reviews and other kinds of formal recognition, it's natural to wonder whether these rejections are based on discrimination, Dr. Friedman says.
But wondering is different than knowing. Before generating any hypotheses about your boss's intentions, you should consider what other factors might be hampering your efforts. "Your boss may have reasons that have nothing to do with your minority status. For example, she may be more dependent on you than you fully appreciate. She may, for her own reasons, be afraid to lose you. It's important to learn more about why you have been turned down so that you can take effective steps to rectify the situation," says Dr. Friedman.
Be Calm, Not Confrontational
It's hard to accomplish those goals when you're upset or angry. Dr. Scarborough emphasizes the importance of staying calm during such discussions. She says, "Take time to reflect on your situation before seeking feedback. Come at the question from a positive place. Don't be confrontational."
Dr. Friedman agrees. "Deal with your feelings first, preferably with someone outside the workplace, before you go to your boss. Figure out what you want the outcome" of the discussion to be, she says.
In the case of the marketing manager, this meant soliciting feedback about what she needed to do get a promotion. She asked her manager to help identify the skills and accomplishments she needed to position herself for the next promotion and sought her manager's support as a mentor to help her to achieve her goals.
What she discovered surprised her. Rather than devaluing or discriminating against her, the manager was actually grooming her to take over her own position as soon as the manager was promoted. In the meantime, she wanted to keep the marketing manager close to her so that she could continue to mentor her.
This opened the door for the marketing manager and her boss to discuss learning and growth opportunities the company could offer her in lieu of a promotion. Together they developed a career action plan that enabled the marketing manager to continue to expand her skills, increase her responsibilities and make more money even though she didn't receive a promotion at that time.
Had the social worker had this discussion with her boss, she would have learned that she needed more management and supervisory experience. She might then have negotiated with her boss for more formal education and training. She also might have been given day-to-day supervisory and management responsibilities that would help her gain the hands-on experience she needed for a promotion.
Is the Promotion a 'Good Fit'?
Regardless of the reason you're passed over for a promotion, the question of "fit" almost always needs to be addressed. Often the position isn't really the best fit -- either because you don't have the right qualifications or your personality doesn't seem to match the particular situation.
In a perfect world, personalities wouldn't matter quite so much. But in the real world of work, the people you work for and with can make all the difference between success and failure.
Losing out on a promotion you wanted isn't the end of the world. It's not the end of your career, either. "Really successful people use [rejection] as a learning experience," says Dr. Scarborough. "They don't let it immobilize them. They use it as an opportunity to develop and exhibit resilience."
The important thing is to get feedback and gain clarity, Dr. Friedman says. Then, you can figure out what you need to do to change.
What's important is to learn from the experience and, in the process, take the initiative to become more resilient, confident and self-directed.
So, if you don't get that job you wanted:
· Take time to process your feelings, preferably with someone outside of the organization.
· In an objective, nonconfrontational and supportive meeting with your manager, solicit feedback to determine why you were passed over.
· Determine what you're seeking: Do you want to expand your role, change your job title; get a pay raise, receive professional training, or reapply for the position?
· Evaluate your future with the company based on the feedback you received.
· Develop an action plan.
-- Ms. Hirsch is the author of "How to Be Happy at Work" (Jist Publishing, September 2003). She's based in Chicago.
It has been ages since i had my diary written somewhere.. sometimes i feel like starting again but never get to do it.. now with the convenience of blog.. i may begin where i left off..
Thursday, April 26, 2007
Mum ComiNg 2 ToWn
Finally, mum coming this weekend. After delaying for few weeks cos she is learning her dancing..chacha and stuff..super On nowadays..
we plan to have steamboat this weekend and it's time to pick up some cooking skill from mum while she is around !!
Lots of things to share with her...after married and got pregnant.. then i realise how hard it is to be a mother.. before that i wont think much of how she carry us for that 10 months and how she manage to prepare dinner everyday without fail and we just know it's time for dinner and never know she she actually got everything done..
Geesss..i hope i will be a good mum too. wish me luck !
we plan to have steamboat this weekend and it's time to pick up some cooking skill from mum while she is around !!
Lots of things to share with her...after married and got pregnant.. then i realise how hard it is to be a mother.. before that i wont think much of how she carry us for that 10 months and how she manage to prepare dinner everyday without fail and we just know it's time for dinner and never know she she actually got everything done..
Geesss..i hope i will be a good mum too. wish me luck !
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
X-CompANy GossIps
Lunch with x-col and catch up with him on some of the latest happenings in my old company..
Seems like the pillar of the team, is leaving them. They said all b'cos of one manager that has been backstabbing them.
Last time, i used to hear good things abt this manager, people stay back b'cos of him, they dun mind the late nights, the low incentives , cos they said this manager always protect them and fight for their welfare. so on blahh..
Now, it's totally different story i've heard, people is keen to leave cos of him. so ironic.
The company was acquired by another company, our previous bosses all left and sold their share.. what a drastic change..
My x-col said their salary still abt 2k plus..so pitiful.
But hey, i have left, so no more my business.. just feel pity for those who can't seem to make a move due to some commitments and etc..
Just hope for a better career path for all of my friends and of course myself.. haaaa
Seems like the pillar of the team, is leaving them. They said all b'cos of one manager that has been backstabbing them.
Last time, i used to hear good things abt this manager, people stay back b'cos of him, they dun mind the late nights, the low incentives , cos they said this manager always protect them and fight for their welfare. so on blahh..
Now, it's totally different story i've heard, people is keen to leave cos of him. so ironic.
The company was acquired by another company, our previous bosses all left and sold their share.. what a drastic change..
My x-col said their salary still abt 2k plus..so pitiful.
But hey, i have left, so no more my business.. just feel pity for those who can't seem to make a move due to some commitments and etc..
Just hope for a better career path for all of my friends and of course myself.. haaaa
Saturday, April 21, 2007
Read- Up
Two books recommended by my friend from her course, which she finds it interesting:
1)The Absorbent Mind
Description:
In response to the crisis in American education, more than five thousand public and private schools across the nation have adopted the timeless Montessori Method of teaching, of which this book is the cornerstone. Written by the women whose name is synonymous worldwide with child development theory, "The Absorbent Mind "takes its title from the phrase that the inspired Italian doctor coined to characterize the child's most crucial developmental stage: the first six years.
2) The Secret Of Childhood
Description:
Maria Montessori describes the child with warmth and the exactness of a scientist. She also discusses the array of materials and techniques needed to release his learning potential.
About the Authors:
Maria Montessori, born in Italy in 1870, dedicated her life to learning how best to educate children -- particularly the poorest, most challenged children -- during their vulnerable beginnings. Today her legacy is evident worldwide. She died in the Netherlands in 1952.
1)The Absorbent Mind
Description:
In response to the crisis in American education, more than five thousand public and private schools across the nation have adopted the timeless Montessori Method of teaching, of which this book is the cornerstone. Written by the women whose name is synonymous worldwide with child development theory, "The Absorbent Mind "takes its title from the phrase that the inspired Italian doctor coined to characterize the child's most crucial developmental stage: the first six years.
2) The Secret Of Childhood
Description:
Maria Montessori describes the child with warmth and the exactness of a scientist. She also discusses the array of materials and techniques needed to release his learning potential.
About the Authors:
Maria Montessori, born in Italy in 1870, dedicated her life to learning how best to educate children -- particularly the poorest, most challenged children -- during their vulnerable beginnings. Today her legacy is evident worldwide. She died in the Netherlands in 1952.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
BB Diary
I thk i'll start to blog my pregnancy journey..maybe i can refer when i have my next bb.. muahh...
Shall start when i have more free time..
Shall start when i have more free time..
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
ZzzzZZzzzZzzz
Im fighting hard.. real hard to stay awake..
basically, almost every night on weekday, i sleep after 9:30pm.. let's say if i go to bed at 9:40 (include walking time from living to bed, and cover blanket and all, total =10minutes ), then start sleeping at 10pm.. i wake up at 6:30am..i should have slept for 8 1/2 hours.. which is way enough for an adult..
I feel fresh in the morning, brain is working fine.. but when come to afternoon, especially after lunch, my brain's cell is congested with Z bug..
Damn.. got to scribble on paper.. to pretend working.. thking.. but the only word i can write is "sleep"
Help me Help me !!
basically, almost every night on weekday, i sleep after 9:30pm.. let's say if i go to bed at 9:40 (include walking time from living to bed, and cover blanket and all, total =10minutes ), then start sleeping at 10pm.. i wake up at 6:30am..i should have slept for 8 1/2 hours.. which is way enough for an adult..
I feel fresh in the morning, brain is working fine.. but when come to afternoon, especially after lunch, my brain's cell is congested with Z bug..
Damn.. got to scribble on paper.. to pretend working.. thking.. but the only word i can write is "sleep"
Help me Help me !!
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Baby-BOOM
This year seems to be the year for many piglet to be produced.
We have local actress Zoey Tay, due in Oct. taiwaness actress "xiao S" both pregnant now.
my mum's neighbour (next door) giving birth this coming July, my mum's neighbour (opp) daughter in law, giving birth in oct too.
My sis's frens, 3 of them. 1 giving birth in 3 months time, 2 in November.
My fren, Helen due in 3 months time , col, Jen due in Sept,
so, we are saying, when these babies grow up, we may have problem getting into the school of our choice, cos all will be fighting to get in.
We have local actress Zoey Tay, due in Oct. taiwaness actress "xiao S" both pregnant now.
my mum's neighbour (next door) giving birth this coming July, my mum's neighbour (opp) daughter in law, giving birth in oct too.
My sis's frens, 3 of them. 1 giving birth in 3 months time, 2 in November.
My fren, Helen due in 3 months time , col, Jen due in Sept,
so, we are saying, when these babies grow up, we may have problem getting into the school of our choice, cos all will be fighting to get in.
Work-ING HaRd ?!?
boss going HK tmw till friday.. kekekke.. no gahmen for 3 days.. kekekkeke..
Somehow, i think if not b'cos im preggy, i've already gone to Japan in March and Hk with him this time. But too bad.. miss all the travelling opportunity. neeway, nvm one lah.. always there is chance for traveling if i remain in this company.
Recently, there isn't much work to do. Sometimes i think people here is not that serious in their work. we are not so stressful to carry out any tasks/projects cos most of the time we will get vendors involved. we just mainly coordinate and make sure things flow smoothly according to schedule. This is how MNC works. We splurge millions of dollars for contracts and all .. but hire people to just corrdinate and plan for more and more upgrades.. we always say upgrades mean to create jobs to justify our working man-day.. muahhh...
I guess, at my stage, the easier the job , the better it is.. i dun want a job that is so strenous that i cant have time to sit down and blog or surf net right ? heeee..
HL is saying, she always wanted a job that pays well and she can settles down with not much work load. But too bad, her career does not go according to her wish. She has to work hard to earn that big buck..and fly here and there..
i always tell her that she has no commitment now, so, should make full use of the commitment-less day to do all the travelling and hard work.. who knows maybe she will come home with some indian bf (she flies to india a lot) then marry, have kids , no chance to fly here and there anymore ?
Geesss...im not sure it is that i cun have much things to do or im just lack of motivation to work..I wonder when the new guy/ger is coming in, to share our "load" muahh...
Somehow, i think if not b'cos im preggy, i've already gone to Japan in March and Hk with him this time. But too bad.. miss all the travelling opportunity. neeway, nvm one lah.. always there is chance for traveling if i remain in this company.
Recently, there isn't much work to do. Sometimes i think people here is not that serious in their work. we are not so stressful to carry out any tasks/projects cos most of the time we will get vendors involved. we just mainly coordinate and make sure things flow smoothly according to schedule. This is how MNC works. We splurge millions of dollars for contracts and all .. but hire people to just corrdinate and plan for more and more upgrades.. we always say upgrades mean to create jobs to justify our working man-day.. muahhh...
I guess, at my stage, the easier the job , the better it is.. i dun want a job that is so strenous that i cant have time to sit down and blog or surf net right ? heeee..
HL is saying, she always wanted a job that pays well and she can settles down with not much work load. But too bad, her career does not go according to her wish. She has to work hard to earn that big buck..and fly here and there..
i always tell her that she has no commitment now, so, should make full use of the commitment-less day to do all the travelling and hard work.. who knows maybe she will come home with some indian bf (she flies to india a lot) then marry, have kids , no chance to fly here and there anymore ?
Geesss...im not sure it is that i cun have much things to do or im just lack of motivation to work..I wonder when the new guy/ger is coming in, to share our "load" muahh...
Sunday, April 08, 2007
Mus1cAL...03 ApRiL '07
"mountain turtles" going to musical for the very first time..
How time flies.. it has been a year since we are officially married !
Happy Anniversary! A late post though.
We booked the ticket last year in the celebration of our anniversary, i wanted to try out something new on this day. It turned out the musical is darn good ! Indeed impressive and satisfying. The musical is an eye-opening to people like us who has never thought we will ever go for a musical play.
The whole set is so up to standard. the backdrop, the actors/actresses, the singings, the music, the scene.. all look so real and keep us awake whole night.. but.. in some singings i still feel sleepy.. cos each songs take few minutes..
There is a short break in between the musical for us to relax our muscles and have some drinks perhaps. The toilet's queue are long but there are many cubicles available, thus, not much waiting time.
So, overall rating for our first musical, i must say a 7/10
It's important to know the story before you go to a musical, else you'll be lost in the singings..lucky thing tcs just showed the movie recently and i've got the story and that has actually just let me enjoy the musical without trying to understand what exactly are they trying to express..
Let's see what's for our second anniversary then..looking forward to it..
How time flies.. it has been a year since we are officially married !
Happy Anniversary! A late post though.
We booked the ticket last year in the celebration of our anniversary, i wanted to try out something new on this day. It turned out the musical is darn good ! Indeed impressive and satisfying. The musical is an eye-opening to people like us who has never thought we will ever go for a musical play.
The whole set is so up to standard. the backdrop, the actors/actresses, the singings, the music, the scene.. all look so real and keep us awake whole night.. but.. in some singings i still feel sleepy.. cos each songs take few minutes..
There is a short break in between the musical for us to relax our muscles and have some drinks perhaps. The toilet's queue are long but there are many cubicles available, thus, not much waiting time.
So, overall rating for our first musical, i must say a 7/10
It's important to know the story before you go to a musical, else you'll be lost in the singings..lucky thing tcs just showed the movie recently and i've got the story and that has actually just let me enjoy the musical without trying to understand what exactly are they trying to express..
Let's see what's for our second anniversary then..looking forward to it..
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Baby Joy
It's nice to have friends who is sharing the same experience as u esp pregnancy.
Jen and i preggy almost the same time and due almost the same time, just 2 weeks apart. Thus, whenever we meet, we have never ending topics to talk abt..
i learn many thing from what she read or her doc told her.. she too learn things from me through my sis-in-laws experience..
after some comparison, we noticed that having baby in s'pore have more check-ups and more spending cos ther are many more medical details that doc in s'pore take note of than in m'sia.
You'll feel relief that someone is also going through the same journey as you are.. but she is luckier cos she dun get any morning sickness at all.. she just gain weigh uncontrollably.. haaa..and she said her nose is bloating... which i din notice it before so im not sure whether it is larger but bee bee ever told me her nose is getting bigger due to pregnancy..
Yesterday, we have gotten the bed and mattress.. mum is coming in mid april.. soon soon.. happy happy...
Happy Holiday to all.. Tmw is good friday ... long weekend muahhh..
Jen and i preggy almost the same time and due almost the same time, just 2 weeks apart. Thus, whenever we meet, we have never ending topics to talk abt..
i learn many thing from what she read or her doc told her.. she too learn things from me through my sis-in-laws experience..
after some comparison, we noticed that having baby in s'pore have more check-ups and more spending cos ther are many more medical details that doc in s'pore take note of than in m'sia.
You'll feel relief that someone is also going through the same journey as you are.. but she is luckier cos she dun get any morning sickness at all.. she just gain weigh uncontrollably.. haaa..and she said her nose is bloating... which i din notice it before so im not sure whether it is larger but bee bee ever told me her nose is getting bigger due to pregnancy..
Yesterday, we have gotten the bed and mattress.. mum is coming in mid april.. soon soon.. happy happy...
Happy Holiday to all.. Tmw is good friday ... long weekend muahhh..
Friday, March 30, 2007
Week-END where-ABOUTS
Weekends le !!!! so happy !! TGIF !!
I haven been working for many many weekends since december'06. Luckly thing i have cols who can cover me else i'll be very tired u know !
This weekend, i tot of going Ikea to get a new bed for my mum as she is coming to cook for me ! muahhh !!!!.. so looking forward to her cooking !
I wonder why each time i miss my mum i tot of her cookings .. i wonder if my kids will do the same to me.. i guess unlikely as my cooking is no where to compare to my mum's.. but come to think of it.. i have a friend who praise her mum's cooking very much. once we had a chance to try her mum's cooking and ...we actually don't enjoy it..
maybe all children will love their mum's cooking no matter if it's nice or not.. it;s just the feeling of it ? but my mum's cooking confirm is good as i'm not the only person who feels her cooking is fantastic even my husband or neighbours feel the same..
ohh.. im suppose to plan where to go this weekend, not abt mum's cooking.. yeah.. plan to go ikea.. then maybe keep a look out for maternity clothing.. i guess very soon i'll wont be able to fit into my daily clothing.. better see see look look now..
Have a great weekend !
I haven been working for many many weekends since december'06. Luckly thing i have cols who can cover me else i'll be very tired u know !
This weekend, i tot of going Ikea to get a new bed for my mum as she is coming to cook for me ! muahhh !!!!.. so looking forward to her cooking !
I wonder why each time i miss my mum i tot of her cookings .. i wonder if my kids will do the same to me.. i guess unlikely as my cooking is no where to compare to my mum's.. but come to think of it.. i have a friend who praise her mum's cooking very much. once we had a chance to try her mum's cooking and ...we actually don't enjoy it..
maybe all children will love their mum's cooking no matter if it's nice or not.. it;s just the feeling of it ? but my mum's cooking confirm is good as i'm not the only person who feels her cooking is fantastic even my husband or neighbours feel the same..
ohh.. im suppose to plan where to go this weekend, not abt mum's cooking.. yeah.. plan to go ikea.. then maybe keep a look out for maternity clothing.. i guess very soon i'll wont be able to fit into my daily clothing.. better see see look look now..
Have a great weekend !
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Endless Week
This week seems to drag so long.. so looking forward to weekends...
maybe too much free time in work place these days....but i cant sleep in office..
so i setill feel tired.. sleepy...i need lots of time to zzzzzzzz....
yawn till jaw tired.....
maybe too much free time in work place these days....but i cant sleep in office..
so i setill feel tired.. sleepy...i need lots of time to zzzzzzzz....
yawn till jaw tired.....
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Im Over FirsT TrimEster !!
Kinda excited cos finally im over the first trimester ( 3rd month), according to doc nausea and vomitiing will subside after this trimester but does not mean wont have it. Occasionally i still vomit sob sob.
According to the book i read, after the first trimester, lesser chances of miscarriage. so safer to move about now. kekeke.
That day, my sis just ask how am i. i told her much better as no vomitting for a week. Never knew on that night i vomitted twice, my dinner was wasted again.. mum said pantang.. cannot say next time !
now im reading the mummies forum to get more info on pregnancy and even child care..this is something we still headache abt .. after the bb born.. who is going to take care.. geesss.. maid/child care/parents ??
Sue, thanks ! yeah a lifetime experience i must say.. at least i'm over the worst 3 mths.. i hope ! still alive and kicking !! kekeke..wish me luck to the rest of the journey
According to the book i read, after the first trimester, lesser chances of miscarriage. so safer to move about now. kekeke.
That day, my sis just ask how am i. i told her much better as no vomitting for a week. Never knew on that night i vomitted twice, my dinner was wasted again.. mum said pantang.. cannot say next time !
now im reading the mummies forum to get more info on pregnancy and even child care..this is something we still headache abt .. after the bb born.. who is going to take care.. geesss.. maid/child care/parents ??
Sue, thanks ! yeah a lifetime experience i must say.. at least i'm over the worst 3 mths.. i hope ! still alive and kicking !! kekeke..wish me luck to the rest of the journey
Thursday, March 22, 2007
Sting-i-ness
Tak boleh tahan...
Sometimes people is so stingy till their stinginess affect other people..
real case #1:
one of our col in another department went for fibroid removal op. He wanted to show how he care, telling her if she go for operation, must inform him so that he will visit her or buy her some fruits basket.
So, recently, she went for the op. We found out. he talk big to her department cols , wanted her address cos he wanted to send him some wellness gift.
So, guess what he did ? he send an email asking me to buy and ask everyone in our department to share !!! funny right ? isn't he the one wants to show kindness ?? why must we share and buy for him ?
That's the problem. the underline lies in.. he always wanted to do something...to show others how generous he is.. how kind he is.. but he used his own department people to pay for it. he ask everyone to share.. not he ask.. he used other to do the job to sk others.. u get what i mean. so beh tahan him.
a $45 fruit basket, cant he afford ? but he rather ask everyone to share (we don't like the lady anyway, such an arrogant person) , so if u don't share, he take it personal, taking it as u r not cooperating with him.
So, we r the scapegoat !
real-case #2
He emailed to me asking if myself and another col wanna go for lunch to eat fish head curry. his treat. im fine with it lah, but being understanding, i say i will buy deserts. all agreed.
But, when we at the hawker centre, the food came. the aunty asking for money. guess what he did ?? he pretended eating.. din even show any initiative to take out wallet to pay.. so my col as a guy, have to foot the bill !!!'
Can you believe it ?? i still keep my words, i bought them deserts. cos im not like him. he thinks everyone owes him cos he is the one decide our salary & bonus !
But, hey, we work for it ! and the money is not his ! it's the company's !!
We wonder if he will double his wealth by doing all these small action ! despising people who always trying means and ways to get advantage of others. abuse his power over the weak !
Geesss.. how i feel better after i spill it out !! i cant be going around complaining him ! i wish i could say it out loud and let him hear it !
Sometimes people is so stingy till their stinginess affect other people..
real case #1:
one of our col in another department went for fibroid removal op. He wanted to show how he care, telling her if she go for operation, must inform him so that he will visit her or buy her some fruits basket.
So, recently, she went for the op. We found out. he talk big to her department cols , wanted her address cos he wanted to send him some wellness gift.
So, guess what he did ? he send an email asking me to buy and ask everyone in our department to share !!! funny right ? isn't he the one wants to show kindness ?? why must we share and buy for him ?
That's the problem. the underline lies in.. he always wanted to do something...to show others how generous he is.. how kind he is.. but he used his own department people to pay for it. he ask everyone to share.. not he ask.. he used other to do the job to sk others.. u get what i mean. so beh tahan him.
a $45 fruit basket, cant he afford ? but he rather ask everyone to share (we don't like the lady anyway, such an arrogant person) , so if u don't share, he take it personal, taking it as u r not cooperating with him.
So, we r the scapegoat !
real-case #2
He emailed to me asking if myself and another col wanna go for lunch to eat fish head curry. his treat. im fine with it lah, but being understanding, i say i will buy deserts. all agreed.
But, when we at the hawker centre, the food came. the aunty asking for money. guess what he did ?? he pretended eating.. din even show any initiative to take out wallet to pay.. so my col as a guy, have to foot the bill !!!'
Can you believe it ?? i still keep my words, i bought them deserts. cos im not like him. he thinks everyone owes him cos he is the one decide our salary & bonus !
But, hey, we work for it ! and the money is not his ! it's the company's !!
We wonder if he will double his wealth by doing all these small action ! despising people who always trying means and ways to get advantage of others. abuse his power over the weak !
Geesss.. how i feel better after i spill it out !! i cant be going around complaining him ! i wish i could say it out loud and let him hear it !
TaX-inG
Another year to give money to gahmen..our hard earned money will be distributed to their projects to build and rebuild their bridge/road/house..renovate and renovate again and again...
This year nothing for me to submit for tax relief.. sobb.. sobb...
This year nothing for me to submit for tax relief.. sobb.. sobb...
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
GaTHering
Once again Gis initiated the gathering. Past few times were called off cos not much of response from all..
seems like this time 4 of us will meet for sure. it's been some time since i meet Iris or BK. The last time i met Gis was during my wedding.
now, most of the cols we know in HP have left..to a better place..
Geess.. sleepy now.. got to try to stay awake..yawn yawn..
Saw jia's blog on CH's wedding..we wonder if ML will ever improve on her fashion sense. she looks older than her age and not up to date.. maybe that's what prof c likes .. heee..
anyway, boss left office le.. he eats snake a lot lately.. we also happy lah..
seems like this time 4 of us will meet for sure. it's been some time since i meet Iris or BK. The last time i met Gis was during my wedding.
now, most of the cols we know in HP have left..to a better place..
Geess.. sleepy now.. got to try to stay awake..yawn yawn..
Saw jia's blog on CH's wedding..we wonder if ML will ever improve on her fashion sense. she looks older than her age and not up to date.. maybe that's what prof c likes .. heee..
anyway, boss left office le.. he eats snake a lot lately.. we also happy lah..
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
You & me..
Im feeling better now.. not fully but better than before..
Yesterday, we can see him/her in a much clearer picture..with hands and legs and face and stomach... amazing how much changes in just a month time.. last month is just a bean-like feature...amazing how this small little life of 5cm can move and kick..
Geesss.. still overwhelm with the image of the cute little thing..the connection btw me and him/her...amazing...
Yesterday, we can see him/her in a much clearer picture..with hands and legs and face and stomach... amazing how much changes in just a month time.. last month is just a bean-like feature...amazing how this small little life of 5cm can move and kick..
Geesss.. still overwhelm with the image of the cute little thing..the connection btw me and him/her...amazing...
Monday, March 12, 2007
NeW LifeStyle...
I never know this is so difficult. The initial excitement and anticipation have gone with the weeks of suffering..
The experience is no joke really...hopefully i'll be back to my normal lifestyle again..always looking at the bright side though..with the support of my family and LGG...
Still coping with the changes .. I know i'll be fine.. just a few more weeks to go... !!!!
The experience is no joke really...hopefully i'll be back to my normal lifestyle again..always looking at the bright side though..with the support of my family and LGG...
Still coping with the changes .. I know i'll be fine.. just a few more weeks to go... !!!!
Thursday, March 01, 2007
PearlScale
LGG bought me two Pearlscale Goldfish..
They look like the picture below.very cute. like ping pong. nice..
Now is the matter of how long will they last..
They look like the picture below.very cute. like ping pong. nice..
Now is the matter of how long will they last..
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
BaCk
Im Back to reality since last week. Been feeling un-well. Now nose still stuck. sob.
Europe is just too cold for me. Air too dry for me. Scenary is beautiful but i cant live with that weather.
I still prefer and suitable to stay in hot and humid country. i miss laksa, nasi lemak when in Europe. How nice our own country is !!
The flight there also killing me. Taking more than 10 hours to go and come back. We suffered from Jetlag. now still recovering from the sleeps we lost..zzz...
Europe is just too cold for me. Air too dry for me. Scenary is beautiful but i cant live with that weather.
I still prefer and suitable to stay in hot and humid country. i miss laksa, nasi lemak when in Europe. How nice our own country is !!
The flight there also killing me. Taking more than 10 hours to go and come back. We suffered from Jetlag. now still recovering from the sleeps we lost..zzz...
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