lil missy @ 3 years 10 mths old

I barely remembered the terrible two phase with lil missy, as my memory always failed me on things that happened earlier. now, seems like i'm facing another terrible 4 phase with lil missy.
She is just so stubborn and not practising her manners in many ways.. Am i asking too much from her? or am i giving her too many "reminders" or am i telling her too mant times that she is "rude" that she takes that as what she suppose to behave ?

ok, let me list out things that she do that piss me and LGG off.
1. dig her nose publicly.. we even caught her digging nose then put into her mouth ! OMG ! We used to tell her to only dig nose when she is bathing, i usually give her some time after bathing(before wiping) to dig nose then wash her hands and face then wipe body and change. This has been going fine and well within my "control" for quite long, until lately, she started to ditch the "dig nose only in bathroom" idea and decided to dig anywhere and anytime..

2. she shouted loudly at her brother whenever they "fight" for toys, i reminded her nth times, didi loves you and you love didi. cannot shout at didi or push him. this will hurt didi. she usually will turn soft and kiss the brother. but this never stop there. she will repeat the same after this episode. headache.. but when they are in peaceful playing term, they are so cute together..

3. she needs to be reminded to greet and answer others. she will greet most of the time when we say, must greet, must call. when people ask her questions, only when she is in good mood she will answer and talk nonstop else, she will ignore or just don't bother.. reminded many times too.. same still

4. She is rude to me and her daddy. She will talk loudly or answer loudly when we do not allow her to do things she insisted to do. usually, she ended up having to say sorry, but this is also after we insisted she said so. the alien catches mummy story works 80% only now, no more 100%..

5. she is taking sosoos long to complete her meal. 60% of time she is ok. but the rest of the time, we need to chase after her to keep asking her to eat faster then she will chew else just keep the food inside her mouth.. like hamster..

Dealing with her so many "pattern" daily really is challenge. i just try to not flare up and raise my voice as much as i could. sometimes, im just too tired from all the things that i need to handled and still have to manage her. The only thing im happy about her is that she is willing to sit down to do our 20 to 30 minutes daily "study time" . i guess tt's a console? and she remembers to say she loves me every night and morning before i leave for work.

i used to massage her back and leg every night before we sleep. She loves that. but recently, due to her bad manners, i told her you are not a good girl today, so no massage., But LGG said maybe we should change our strategy slightly, LGG said instead of saying she is not a good girl, no massage, why don't we say tell mummy what are the good things that you think you have done, and mummy will massage accordingly.

So, she will say, " i eat my dinner very fast" , " i read my chinese book", " i love didi, i kiss didi", " i keep my toys" .. well, tt's 4 times, so she gets 4 times of massage. she is happy. and we are happy. Focusing the child's good points is what shichida method teaches us. sometimes, we just forget.

My little Man

lil Jared has grown so fast.. too fast i feel.. that he is already 16 months-old now. he is at 10.4 kg. very cheerful. very active. very hungry, never stop asking for food.

verbal wise, he is able to call mama and call very loudly.. ohh..so heartwarming. he can call papa, popo, kakak, jiejie, ah ma now left gong gong haven call. he can say bowl, shoes, fish, wear, mum mum (food), tutu (pacifier), key, ball, where, give give (when he wants us to give him thing), mm mmm (when he wants to pass motion, yes, he can tell when he needs to poo, i even bring him to toilet when we were outside and he told me he wants to poo and really he poo). i asked him to say "A" by showing him the letter, he will say "Aaa" and i said say apple, h will say "Aaappo"..he will say bird and when i ask how bird sing? he will "chip chip chip" and he said two words 'where tutu"..

He is able to climb upstairs by holding on the railing.. but cannot go downstairs yet.

he kiss us with loud "ciup" sound.. h can undestand 95% of what we said with 99% accuracy.. amazing !

so far he is also start to drink 240ml milk, starting this week, before that he always cant even finish 180ml of milk, im glad that his milk intake increase. not too worried abt his diet as he eats solid more than milk. he still get up for his night feed, for the past 2 weeks, he even get up once at 130am, once at 530am.. so tiring lor.. hope this phase can pass quickly.

very soon, my little man will be 17 month-old.. i miss him when he is still baby.. so weird..

Motor skill development-didi

lil bb boy is showing some very obvious milestones now.

He can flip hard cover books, he can stack the ring (in picture), anyhow stack but right ontothe cone. and he will lift open his shirt and point at his belly button when we ask him "Where is belly button" his action really crack us all up !

so adorable..still haven manage to get a photo when he lift up shirt and point at his navel as he is now very sensitive to camera ! LGG videod it. really memorable !

little 8 month-0ld boy boy

My little cherup loves when i sing the rhyme while circling on his palm

round and round the garden action: circling on his palm
like a teddy bear
one step, two steps.. action: walking up his hands towards his arm
tickle under there.. action: tickle his armpit or belly..

i have started playing with him for awhile now, 2 months back i guess. and even his sister knows how to do the action when reciting the rhyme.

didi will start smiling even before i start the circling on palm action. i just have to say round and round the garden.. he is already expecting the "akan datang" haaa.. very cute boy

Teething Chart- 6 teeth

It was updated on 26th Oct, didi now has 6 teeth altogether.

Working on it

Now, im trying to toilet train missy and make sure she brushes her teeth on daily basis.

She just refuse to tell us when she needs to pee or poo. she can let her pants wet (in nappy) and happily doing her things, ignoring the wetness.. and she is able to walk as per normal even the poo is already in her nappy.. * dirty girl she is*

we have tried so many times to tell her.. MUST tell mummy and po po if you need to pee pee or poo ok ? " she will nod nod nod.. but.. the next 10 minutes, you check her nappy again, she is wet and she just pretend not knowing it.. and when we want to change her. she will run away from us.. sometimes i think she thinks it's a game.. we have to hit the jackpot and "ta daaa.. you are right, im peeing or pooing" but if you want to change me.. you have to catch me first.. *BIG SIGH*

I even tried the 5 minutes before she sleeps to remind her to tell when she needs to go.. but still no sign of improvement.. i shoudl said it deteriorate even. Last time she will at least tell once or twice.. now.. NEVER !!! maybe i should ger her to read the potty book again !!!

she is coming to 21 months in 2 weeks time.. still not toilet trained le.e.e.e Tell me what to do !!

Maybe we shoudln't let her wear nappy anymore.. she may be used to having the nappy there and is fine with the wetnes when she pees ?? got to discuss some strategy with mum !!


Another headache thing. Missy refuse to use toothpaste.. then eventually refuse to use toothbrush.. I bought her the first year toothpaste which is so good quality and high price some more.. i guess it'll gone to waste again..

maybe i should do more art work related to potty and toothbruhs ?? liek this ?

Tooth brush art

i even brush my teeth and show her, she likes to help me brush, but not brushing her own teeth !

sigh !

BFIR - Books for 2 - 4 yo

Yesterday i got three books from the BFIR list.

1. Goodnight Moon.
2. Corduroy
3. We're going for a bear hunt.

i read all to my missy. she does not give 100% attention to all my readings. but im so interested with these books.

Goodnight moon repeating many times of the word "Good night" and corduroy is a bear in green overall with one missing strap buttons, whom finally found a friend by this little girl who bought(save) him from toy department, and we're going for a bear hunt describes the family of 5 advetures to look for a bear and they 've gone through river/bushes/snowstorm/cave and the story reverted the whole journey by bear chasing them back to their home.. so it stresses on sounds and up/under/through.

No wonder SAHM loves the BFIR & FIR series. There are websites sharing activities to be carried put with BFIR/FIR stories.. I've downloaded as many as i've found.

Will introduce the stories to Missy first only after she is familiar with these stories then i'll start tje activities with her.

Homeschooling fun !

Toilet training

We manage to get her sit on toilet to poo on weekend, with her pinky cutey toilet seat, she is more than glad to sit on it.. and make me proud by pooing on it. This morning she did it again *beaming mum*

See how happy she is..ohh..she is growing fast ! record it down to remember the first toilet pooing !

Busy weeks

Well..after my missy birthday.. basically things are back to normal. excitement seems over. heee.. maybe being first tiem mum, i feel so excited over this ONE year old thing. cos hey we only have one time ONE year old le.. first ever birthday.

Well.. my girl now is growing up well. she can do many things that sometiems surprises most of us. she can now walk on her own without support. YES, at 12th month old she is consider fast. mum said must be the ikan bilis and big bones soup she made often for missy.. haaa.. strengthen leg bones? heee..MIL said cos she is keen to learn walking, even with few fall and knock here and there, she insisted on walking, thus, she finally succeded she now can walk without support. *Brave girl*

She can now put things in basket and take them out as she wish. motor skill tip top ! she even surprised me two days back by stacking rings MINE it's like i've introduced this stacking rings for months, and now suddenly she just knew how to do it on her own.. so REPETITION is very important.

she is able to hold pen to scribble on paper, she can feed herself with spoon 9not her meal, casual food). she holds her own bottle during milk feeding.she said "mm mmm" when wanna poo..most of the time is "chun" one... sometimes she said "mm mm" actually is pee pee.. still need to improve.

She can say papa..mama.. baby.. bear bear..bai bai.. ba ba...she know how to wave bye bye but not all the time still.. she plays pee-a-boo.. she will search for her toys that was hidden under blanket.. she throws toys from high chair and waied for us to pick up.. she imitate us to say "no no" with swaying fingers.. she imitate us to say "sh sh.." as in quiet she dances with music by swaying her hands high up..

she knows what is "face".."cheeks".."feet" & " fingers" she will move or point when i show her the flash card, she knows where is her eyes, nose, ear and mouth and will point when mum ask her in mandarine..

What else..woah.. i guess it's really a milestone to be able to pick up all these motor skills and cognetive skill from an infant that seem so helpless..

Im gonna prepare more activities for my girl soon..happy parenting.