Child-care hand-over

I think i'm lucky in the sense that i have a very understanding and helpful in laws.. they never stop showing us that they are always there to assist in situation that we need them.

Eventhough their style my be slightly different than mine, as i'm more casual, i dont follow many rules e.g dinner must eat all together in table, must call before eating, must pray befor eating, a lot of "standards" in ONG's family.. mine very casual, as we do what we please..ince young.. hee..


Given that my mum is no recuperating at my sis place after her radiosurgery, she cannt take on the looking after didi tasks anymore, as she and we fel she needs to rest more than being with active lil Jared.

So, we ask PIL whethr they can asist for the next 5 months plus, until didi go to childcare, since MIL already retired. this, of course interrupted her "retirement" plan of no alarm clock, swimming every tuesday and thursday, go market and jalan jalan whenever she likes with FIL..

but, we have no other choice wor.. and they understand and sort of .. they agreed to assist.

so, since July, PIL have been taking care of Didi at home, while missy in childcare with maid, which i have ask her to continue or 1 more year, as i feel it's too tedious to start to train a new maid now. she agreed and of course i have increased her salary.

Next year then e think of getting a new maid then slowly train .

So far, allm works out well.. Just hope it stays this way until didi goes childcare.

Chicken Pox and Missy

there was a chicken pox outbreak in misssy's childcare for the past 2 weeks. many of her friends in palygorup, her class (Nursery) and kindergarten are down with the virus.. im not THAT worry actually as missy already taken her jab for chicken pox and lil brother too.

The jab did not mean they wont get it but the attack wont be that bad it'll likely be much milder than for those who did not get the jab. I was informed by her teacher of the same thing too.

And wednesday evening. we noticed two spots on missy body.. one on her back, one on her right ye lid.. it's like pimple/rashes.. no bubbles inside.. so LGG checked and say did not look like chicken pox. so Thursday we send her to school as usual.. but teachr identified it as early stage of CP. so e brought her to see doc. Doc said cannot confirm, if it is also mild one as she already taken her vaccination, unlikely is CP.. mm..

anyway, she has to stay home for 7 days. no school. her school enrichment classes were cancelled for July for the outbreak.

Up to today (3 days later), no new spots on missy body.. so we feel relief too and lucky thing we took the jab. else she will be suffering now with the itching and rdness and also fever.

Phew !

Language and missy

Progress report:

Chinese:
Missy is into her third book now, with her confidence in recogising chinese words, when we watch cartoon in mandarin, she is able to spot the words she knows from the subtittle. Good observation !

She knows 25 new chinese words ffrom the chinese basic books.

English:


We have started lady birds Peter and Jane series. we have started with first few pages, she now can read on her own for
1. Peter
2 Jane
3. and
4. Here
5. is
6. the
7. likes
8. dog

We shall continue and learn one new word daily.

As for maths, which im still using SM method by letting hr listen to the Cd and recite the addition. She's not so keen with numbers still but will continue to do that.

Happy learning :)

Playground time

We love our weekend playground time , it's always follow by the one bg round of cycling and walking.. thn we will end at the playground with some sliding , bubbles blowing and also ball kicking..

just want to keep these moments...so precious to me

Miswsy and lil brother kikcing balls... good motor skills from both


ddi loves ball, we have many small balls and 3 big balls at home since he was born





Missy one legged hop








Didi is uite strong, he manage to climb onto the bar on his own this morning








missy more interested in bubbles blowing, she requested bfor it every weekend.

songs of the kid's generation ?

who ? who is Justin Bieber? i only read about this young boy on news about him being popular blah., din even bother to read on.

until recently, col of mine help me to upload many songs including Justin Bierber's song.. there i heard the song "baby" ohh.. then i realise thi is the song that misy has been singing all these while.. as she goes " baby baby bayby ohhh..." even litle brother pick upm this chorus part.. he also goes "baby baby baby ohhhh" really crack us up !

so the first song by lil Jared is Baby by Justin Bieber instead of twinkle twinkle little starss..

How the generation changes. i must make sure im up to date wor... Missy also likes the Jpop song.. "nobody nobody but you" with the action and all.. really must keep up with them..

Missy, where are you ?

Last Sunday, after missy ballet, we drop by at cold storage to buy cherries. Lgg went to pick the cherries, while i carry didi and missy is in the pram.

Then, missy asked to unbuckled ger belt as she wanted to see her daddy pick cherries, so i unbuckled for her. but instead of going to her daddy there, she went to see displays of cakes with another boy, i was just beside them. then , lil didi is saying " apoo apoo" pointing at the mountains of apples in the front and so i just walk forward and tell didi, yes these are apples.. then i turn back to look at missy, but she is not there anymore, left the boy..

i thought she is with her daddy, went over to LGG there who is still picking cherries, no sight of her. ask LGG, he said " i thought she is with you" Oh no.. i cant see her anywhere. i was panicked. so i go inside the store and looking for lil missy, hoping she is just there looking for me too. but no, i went one round, no sight of her.. another round.. no.. my head start to go blank.. i keep saying where are you ? didi also echo after me "where jie jie?, where?" using his both hands making the where gesture.. so, i feel kinda lost, go back out to look for LGG. and he too was missy together with pram.

i called him, but no answer which i have forgotten that he din bring his phone along, as we earlier on plan to go swimming, but as it rained we cancelled it. but i cant think of anything, just very blank.. so i went into the store again looking for missy and LGG.. i was like, how ? both lost ? i hug didi feeling sad.. didi also like can feel what i feel, he just hold on to me quietly.

Then, suddenly, i saw one man keep popping up his head among the crowd.. it was LGG., so i rushed over his side, and manage to get him, there i saw, lil missy holding hand woth LGG. RELIEF, but the first thing came out of my mouth " Why din u answer my phone ? i tot i lost her already !" i raised my voice, ignoring all the stares from the people there.. LGG said, yes, we almost lost her, i did not bring my phone remember ? then i grab missy and walk out.. i felt so relief.. i wanted to reprimand her.. but the little voice in my head tell me, nothing is more important than i have found her.. i should not have come to cold storage to buy that stupid cherries.. i almost lost my daughter..

On our way home.. LGG started to tell me the story. After i told him abt i cant see missy, he went into the store in opposite direction that i went to search, as he feel each one check one side. but cant find, so, he is waiting to hear if any announcement on missy child and true enough , he heard, "one 5 yo, wearing leggings was found in front of guardian".. well, maybe the lady thought missy is 5 yo as she is quite tall. then LGG rush to the customer service, even still bringing the half-picked unpaid cherries along out of the store.. muahaha. there he saw missy crying at the customer service. the best part is, the customer servive did not even verify the identity of LGG and just pass her to him, maybe cos missy din reject LGG, and they tot must be the father.

so, lesson we learnt from this episode, if i were to bring didi to see apples, i should have informed missy first, so when she is done with cake appreciating, she turn around, cant see me, she knows im near the apples section. We think , when she turn and cant find me, she rush out of the store, instead of inside the store like what we thought she did. so she went out of the store and cant see me or LGG. and one aunty saw her crying in front of guardian so bring her to customer service.

so, must always be aware of her and make sure she is aware of us too.. lucky thing we are in spore.. if overseas, we cannot imagine.

Im just glad i have my daughter back.

lil missy @ 3 years 10 mths old

I barely remembered the terrible two phase with lil missy, as my memory always failed me on things that happened earlier. now, seems like i'm facing another terrible 4 phase with lil missy.
She is just so stubborn and not practising her manners in many ways.. Am i asking too much from her? or am i giving her too many "reminders" or am i telling her too mant times that she is "rude" that she takes that as what she suppose to behave ?

ok, let me list out things that she do that piss me and LGG off.
1. dig her nose publicly.. we even caught her digging nose then put into her mouth ! OMG ! We used to tell her to only dig nose when she is bathing, i usually give her some time after bathing(before wiping) to dig nose then wash her hands and face then wipe body and change. This has been going fine and well within my "control" for quite long, until lately, she started to ditch the "dig nose only in bathroom" idea and decided to dig anywhere and anytime..

2. she shouted loudly at her brother whenever they "fight" for toys, i reminded her nth times, didi loves you and you love didi. cannot shout at didi or push him. this will hurt didi. she usually will turn soft and kiss the brother. but this never stop there. she will repeat the same after this episode. headache.. but when they are in peaceful playing term, they are so cute together..

3. she needs to be reminded to greet and answer others. she will greet most of the time when we say, must greet, must call. when people ask her questions, only when she is in good mood she will answer and talk nonstop else, she will ignore or just don't bother.. reminded many times too.. same still

4. She is rude to me and her daddy. She will talk loudly or answer loudly when we do not allow her to do things she insisted to do. usually, she ended up having to say sorry, but this is also after we insisted she said so. the alien catches mummy story works 80% only now, no more 100%..

5. she is taking sosoos long to complete her meal. 60% of time she is ok. but the rest of the time, we need to chase after her to keep asking her to eat faster then she will chew else just keep the food inside her mouth.. like hamster..

Dealing with her so many "pattern" daily really is challenge. i just try to not flare up and raise my voice as much as i could. sometimes, im just too tired from all the things that i need to handled and still have to manage her. The only thing im happy about her is that she is willing to sit down to do our 20 to 30 minutes daily "study time" . i guess tt's a console? and she remembers to say she loves me every night and morning before i leave for work.

i used to massage her back and leg every night before we sleep. She loves that. but recently, due to her bad manners, i told her you are not a good girl today, so no massage., But LGG said maybe we should change our strategy slightly, LGG said instead of saying she is not a good girl, no massage, why don't we say tell mummy what are the good things that you think you have done, and mummy will massage accordingly.

So, she will say, " i eat my dinner very fast" , " i read my chinese book", " i love didi, i kiss didi", " i keep my toys" .. well, tt's 4 times, so she gets 4 times of massage. she is happy. and we are happy. Focusing the child's good points is what shichida method teaches us. sometimes, we just forget.

My little Man

lil Jared has grown so fast.. too fast i feel.. that he is already 16 months-old now. he is at 10.4 kg. very cheerful. very active. very hungry, never stop asking for food.

verbal wise, he is able to call mama and call very loudly.. ohh..so heartwarming. he can call papa, popo, kakak, jiejie, ah ma now left gong gong haven call. he can say bowl, shoes, fish, wear, mum mum (food), tutu (pacifier), key, ball, where, give give (when he wants us to give him thing), mm mmm (when he wants to pass motion, yes, he can tell when he needs to poo, i even bring him to toilet when we were outside and he told me he wants to poo and really he poo). i asked him to say "A" by showing him the letter, he will say "Aaa" and i said say apple, h will say "Aaappo"..he will say bird and when i ask how bird sing? he will "chip chip chip" and he said two words 'where tutu"..

He is able to climb upstairs by holding on the railing.. but cannot go downstairs yet.

he kiss us with loud "ciup" sound.. h can undestand 95% of what we said with 99% accuracy.. amazing !

so far he is also start to drink 240ml milk, starting this week, before that he always cant even finish 180ml of milk, im glad that his milk intake increase. not too worried abt his diet as he eats solid more than milk. he still get up for his night feed, for the past 2 weeks, he even get up once at 130am, once at 530am.. so tiring lor.. hope this phase can pass quickly.

very soon, my little man will be 17 month-old.. i miss him when he is still baby.. so weird..