Missy, where are you ?

Last Sunday, after missy ballet, we drop by at cold storage to buy cherries. Lgg went to pick the cherries, while i carry didi and missy is in the pram.

Then, missy asked to unbuckled ger belt as she wanted to see her daddy pick cherries, so i unbuckled for her. but instead of going to her daddy there, she went to see displays of cakes with another boy, i was just beside them. then , lil didi is saying " apoo apoo" pointing at the mountains of apples in the front and so i just walk forward and tell didi, yes these are apples.. then i turn back to look at missy, but she is not there anymore, left the boy..

i thought she is with her daddy, went over to LGG there who is still picking cherries, no sight of her. ask LGG, he said " i thought she is with you" Oh no.. i cant see her anywhere. i was panicked. so i go inside the store and looking for lil missy, hoping she is just there looking for me too. but no, i went one round, no sight of her.. another round.. no.. my head start to go blank.. i keep saying where are you ? didi also echo after me "where jie jie?, where?" using his both hands making the where gesture.. so, i feel kinda lost, go back out to look for LGG. and he too was missy together with pram.

i called him, but no answer which i have forgotten that he din bring his phone along, as we earlier on plan to go swimming, but as it rained we cancelled it. but i cant think of anything, just very blank.. so i went into the store again looking for missy and LGG.. i was like, how ? both lost ? i hug didi feeling sad.. didi also like can feel what i feel, he just hold on to me quietly.

Then, suddenly, i saw one man keep popping up his head among the crowd.. it was LGG., so i rushed over his side, and manage to get him, there i saw, lil missy holding hand woth LGG. RELIEF, but the first thing came out of my mouth " Why din u answer my phone ? i tot i lost her already !" i raised my voice, ignoring all the stares from the people there.. LGG said, yes, we almost lost her, i did not bring my phone remember ? then i grab missy and walk out.. i felt so relief.. i wanted to reprimand her.. but the little voice in my head tell me, nothing is more important than i have found her.. i should not have come to cold storage to buy that stupid cherries.. i almost lost my daughter..

On our way home.. LGG started to tell me the story. After i told him abt i cant see missy, he went into the store in opposite direction that i went to search, as he feel each one check one side. but cant find, so, he is waiting to hear if any announcement on missy child and true enough , he heard, "one 5 yo, wearing leggings was found in front of guardian".. well, maybe the lady thought missy is 5 yo as she is quite tall. then LGG rush to the customer service, even still bringing the half-picked unpaid cherries along out of the store.. muahaha. there he saw missy crying at the customer service. the best part is, the customer servive did not even verify the identity of LGG and just pass her to him, maybe cos missy din reject LGG, and they tot must be the father.

so, lesson we learnt from this episode, if i were to bring didi to see apples, i should have informed missy first, so when she is done with cake appreciating, she turn around, cant see me, she knows im near the apples section. We think , when she turn and cant find me, she rush out of the store, instead of inside the store like what we thought she did. so she went out of the store and cant see me or LGG. and one aunty saw her crying in front of guardian so bring her to customer service.

so, must always be aware of her and make sure she is aware of us too.. lucky thing we are in spore.. if overseas, we cannot imagine.

Im just glad i have my daughter back.

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/25-manners-every-kid-should-know-by-age-9-2480238

Let me walk through the manners with my missy:

Manner #1

When asking for something, say "Please."

check. Missy was taught to say Please as young as two, she practices it well but this practice reduce by age. But we still insisted she say that whenever she ask for things.

Manner #2

When receiving something, say "Thank you."

check. same as #1.


Manner #3
Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking
check.we started noticed Missy interrupting when she is about 3 plus, when we are on phone and discussing things among adults. I have told her about this manner.

Manner #4
If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
check. same as #3.


Manner #5
When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
Check. Asking permission is required for things she wants from fridge, my phone and etc. she was told to ask. But still need reminders to practicing it.


Manner #6
The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
No. We let her say what she wants. I like kids who are verbal and outspoken. She is allowed to say what she dislikes. Of course say the appropriate things.

Manner #7
Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
check. I have told her this manner too. She will comment some people as “fat”

Manner #8
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
not yet. I just remind her to greet elderly and friends. Seldom people will ask children her age how you are.
Manner #9

When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
I think this need to start teaching her. Maybe start with her grandparents house visit

Manner #10
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.
check. She was taught this manner. But seems like not practicing much, she will jst open the door and come in without waiting for response.

Manner #11
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
Phone manner still in progress. She seldom get phone call.

Manner #12
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
check. Be appreciative.

Manner #13
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
check. Sort of.

Manner #14
Don't call people mean names.
check.

Manner #15
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
check.

Manner #16
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
check..

Manner #17
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
check. Need practising.

Manner #18
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
check.

Manner #19
As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
Not yet.

Manner #20
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new

Not yet..

Manner #21
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
check. Sometimes I need to repeat my request for her help.

Manner #22
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
check.

Manner #23
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
check.

Manner #24
Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
check. She is reminded not to use hands on food and not to put fingers into mouth.

Manner #25
Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
table manner was taught but not full-fledge yet. To be continued I guess

Reading a book with missy

As many have told me that fo children studying in Spore, there should not be any worries on their English language. they are constantly exposed to English language in school/enrichment classes.. the most spoken language, even at home her "kantang" daddy is speaking mostly this language and i was influenced but him. we speak english mostly at home.even maid picked up the language.

beside speaking, we want to ensure she loves to read. we have started reading to her since. she has sort of graduated from ladybird Grade1/2. these are stories by lady bird books according to difficulty of reading, from lesser words to more words.

Just for my record on the books that were familiar by missy

Lady books series(these are books read by LGG when he was younger, all still in good condition)

Grade 1:
1. The elves and the shoemaker
2. The three little pigs
3. The gingerbread boy
4. The little red hen
5. The princess and the pea
6. The sly fox and the little red hen
7. The three billy-goats gruff
8. The enormous turnip
9. Goddilocks and the three bears
10. The magic porridge pot
11. The old woman and her pig
12. Hansel and Gretel

Grade 2:
1. Sleeping beauty
2. Puss in boots
3. Rumpelstiltskin
4. Rapunzel
5. The wold and the seven little kids
6. Little red riding hood


Grade 3:
1. Cinderella
2. Jack and the beanstalk
3. Beauty and the best
4. Snow-white and the seven dwarfs
5. The pied Piper of Hamelin
6. The magic Paintbrush

We read other books too, whivh are from other series/authors lik Mr series, etc.

Happy reading and we hope by reading all these books to her as a routine, will help her to like reading and make this lifelong habit. She has picked up many vocabularies from the stories she read. and she needs the before-bed time reading no matter how tired she is. which i guess is a good sign.

Chinese Learning @ home

lil missy speak mandarine with anngmo slang.. it's like a caucasian kid is speaking chinese.. we are quite worried as she refuse to use mandarine in conversation except to talk to my mum.. but this has improve ever since her China-chinese teacher took over that she seems to speak more mandarin.. with slightly china-slang..mm..

she has been able to read chinese words from her school chinese lesson, as at this stage, she is capturing/remembering via image snapshot. the basic "ba, ma, ge, jie etc" she is able to recognise. I have been putting in some home practise for her chinese too, as knowing chinese is very important, as chinese, we must at least know/can speak/can read the language (this is my father philosophy, tt was why i was sent to chinese primary school) it's always good to know more languages.

i've been discussing and getting tips from other mummies online on this topic, many suggestions and ways are done to get their child to like and be better in thi language. one of the books that i'm glad i've bought 2 weeks back is the basic chinese(5 books in the initial set)




i have been doing the home practise with missy one lesson (recognise 1 word) on daily basis ( besides days when she was sicks last week)..she i picking up fast, we are already 6th words.. after each word, it will combine all the words learn into a sentence, which missy is able to read the whole sentense. *good job*

There is one more set of books, which are highly recommended and bought by many .. si wu kuai du, which they ordered from china website dang dang


but the ordering/delivery is a hassle.. they take weeks to get it..im still considering.. one expert told me unless i can commit to teach daily (like SM flash cards)else the effect for siwukuaidu wont be that great.

for the time being, i'll continue with basic chinese 500. i'll be elated if missy is able to pick up all the words by thi year and i shall buy 5 more books(second sets)

beside ths, i use the SM on poem recital to get missy to recite/remmeber chinese poems. my col gave me some home practise chinese books, i use these to practise with missy. hopefully, she can pronounce mandarin words properly.



I plan to enrol missy to berries (chinese enrichment) next year. let people teach is better than i ownself teach , as i feel my chinese also not very good, later teach the wrong ones, it'll be the blind leads the blind..

Teaching Values

Late post. written on 13th Dec

Sometimes when i look at my lil missy, i feel so warm in the heart that my once little baby first born has grown so much now, she is like a small adult who can even join in our adult's conversation.
At times, she seems so mature but most of the times she is still acting like a 3 yo who is absorbing eagerly from what she sees/hears/feels/smells... and i find her classmates whom i met outside sometimes acted exactly like her, all still at the active/full of life stage..

During this stage, we try to instill as much positives values in her as we could. She is taught to have manners, to be polite to elderly, to talk softly and not raise her voice ( well, i din lead by example, as i still raise my voice when im angry evn to maid and she has since talk louder to maid when she is angry too.. sigh.. ), to greet others, to say excuse me when pass gas, to say lots of please and thank you..

Sat, we went to get some xmas gifts for her cousins, while waiting for me to try out some clothes, there is an elder girl who is eating bread, missy keep near to her and keep looking at the girl "hungrily" as if she is waiting for the girl to give her the bread too, then the girl's mummy saw and offer missy the bread, missy never even hesitate and took the bread and ate it. Too late to intervene and no time to intervene, i remind missy to say thank you which she did. Then, LGG and i told missy in future, if anyone offer you food, must first ask mummy's permission, cannot take and eat like that. She nod and said ok.

Yesterday, while we were playing ball and cycling at our home's playground, there came a grandma with her two grandchildren, they are holding packets of bisuits. missy rush to them and keep talking to the elder girl who is about to eat her biscuit. i call out for her, telling her that we are ready to go.. she ignored me. Then, she sits side by side with the grandma and all, waiting to be offered bisuits, expectedly, the grandma offered one piece of biscuit to missy, and i quickly action, by walking forward and tell the grandma that thanks for the bisuits but my girl cant have it. Missy is starting to throw tantrum, refuse to move, the grandma said is ok. I also said is ok. then i pull missy away, she break free of my hand and run away on the road then LGG grab her back, she then started to cry very loud, shouting and cry.. you can imagine the grandma must be thinking wat's up with this mother making the child crying like that for one biscuit?

But i wanted to use this as a lesson to teach her that she is not to accept food offered by others before asking for permission from mummy/daddy, i told her if she wants to eat, mummy/daddy /po po will buy for her. she cried and shout till we reached home and she immedietaly go to her popo.. then we told mum what happened and mum talked to her and she stop her "drama".

Ended the episode. Before sleeping, i asked her to tell me what happened in the playround, she is able to tell me what happened and she is able to say next time cannot take people's food, must ask mummy first and because mummy/daddy/popo will buy for me.. mmm. well, LGG said she may think we will definitely buy for her ? but i feel at least she learnt that she cannot take what other's offered her and must ask parents's permission first and we shall set her expectation on whether to buy for her ornot.. as now i use the excuse of eat to much bisuit will cough and need to see doctor. which she doesn't lile..

Hope lil missy has picked up this lesson and i do hope she wont jst take whatever people offer her next time.

Being a parent...

something to ponder..

Pencil: I'm sorry
Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.
Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a
mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes
vanish, you lose a part of yourself.
You get smaller and smaller each time.
Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do
this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong.
Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace
me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop
worrying. I hate seeing you sad. :)


I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very
inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are
the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their
mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller
(older, and eventually pass on). Though their children will eventually
find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do
for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones
worrying, or sad.


"All my life, I've been the pencil.. And it pains me to see the eraser
that is my parents getting smaller and smaller each day. For I know that
one day, all that I'm left with would be eraser shavings and memories of
what I used to have..."

This is to all the parents out there...

Parentig booster

How to increase children's memory some good tips

Increase your child's Memory

Some useful tips

Writing at the age of 3 ??

I'm amzed when in witness Missy's classmate who is just one month older than her.. being able to write.. yes write number 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 even 11,12,13,14,15,16... can you imagine that ? my girl can only scribble and i was so amazed when missy is able to darw circle and do cross, and zigzag lines.. but not proper writing.. as i feel 3 year old is still sucha tender age to be able to grasp the concept of writing.. as their hand muscle may still not matured as yet ??

But, i was wrong, i suppose, that her shichida classmate is abe to do this already and she was taught by her maid. i ask her maid , how she teach her to write. she said she taught for nearly 1 year already and everyday pratise kinda thing.. trace on the numbers on dotted line and slowly slowly she (Megan) just able to write.. wowo.. and her writing looks like someone who is already 5 or 6.. simply amazing !

am thinking i should start teaching didi to write by the age of two.. i missed this as i think writing should be taught only at 4 onwards.. haaa.. basically, SM is always one year in advance in the things they expect from the students.

So, on Sunday, i teach missy to write number 2.. oh well.. she is not there yet,, but i determine to continue until she is able to write..

It's an eye-opening to see how much a young toddler can do if we push their limits.. i believe i can start to form words with missy now.. since she knows all the alphebet's sound and recognise them.

I hope im not stressing her out, as i think at her age, she is having fun while play and learn and not feeling pressured.

ST: Good Kid, Bad Kid

Good article from Mind your body today.

Some extract from the article:

Children are inherently innocent, psychiatrists and psychologist believe.

New born to 3 years old: The value system of care comes first

Children below 3 yo understand basic messages like "mummy is mad" or "I should stop this behaviour" However, they do not posses higher order thinking skills like taking on another person's point of view or the ability to solve a problem. They tend to imitate parents, as role-modelling acceptable bahaviours is of utmost important during these years.


4 to 6 years old: They will test the limits and you need to remind them what the boundaries are.

They start to interact more with others, inclduing their peers and they begin to understand and test moral and socially accepted rules and values.

7 to 9 years old:
children are more socially aware abd understand the basic rights of others as well as social mores.

nature vs Nurture:
While a child's environment is important in shaping his moral compass, henes play a part too.

mmm.. shall keep this as general reference.

Missy reads her mummy

This morning, before going to school, i will usually make sure Missy poo so that she wont mess up in school and can leave her butt dry.

Today, after we brush teeth, she pee and i ask her whether she wanna sit on the potty to poo. she said "dont' want, no poo poo" so, i thought ok la, maybe she really dun have anything to poo yet. maybe go to school then poo.

But, after we change into her school uniform and im about to feed her vitamin C, she give me this look, the "Pang sai" look, i then ask her again " If wanna poo poo, please go to toilet, dun soil your diaper, i just change ok" she keep in silence, then i ask her again " wanna go poo poo ? go toilet ?" she said "no"
.I think im not being proactiv.. i just let her be while im calling her to come over to take her vitamin..

true enough.. she just stand there , stone. i knew it. she poo le. ARRRRGgggg.. din she listen to what i just asked her just now ? i ask few times .. again, i feel my anger is rushing.. but i keep cool, ask maid to clean her up. then i tell her.. "din i just tell u to go toilet if wanna poo ? i just said it, and you just poo it right there.. ok fine," i then go into study room.

Missy tell maid that "Mummy is angry" .. i heard from study room. Maid said "yes, you go toilet to poo poo".. then aftr she is being washed, she walk to my study room, standing outside the door, i then close the door. she cry immediately.. mm.. im thinking, gees.. why did i do that ? im so rude hor..then maid bring her to change.

After she is done, still with tears.. she then came to me, try to approach me. i ask her if she want to take her vitamin C, she nod. Then, we are about to go to school while wearing her shoes, she keep looking at me, i did not look at her. She then said " sorry mummy"... geees.. my heart melted.. so i said "come here, give me one hug" she came rushing to me and hug me.. i told her again "poo poo must go toilet ok ".. she then said "ok"

My girl is growing up didn't she ? she knows when im angry and she knows how to "dissolve" my anger.. sigh.. i think good and bad ? good is that she knows when she did something her mummy dun like her mummy will angry. bad is that why her mummy always angry ? will she be like that too nxt time ?

Tell me what to do.. im handling a small little human being that is ready to be mould into something she will pick up and learn quick from where she grows up.

sometimes i think my bad temper is from my mum, she too has very bad temper.. i always she her scolding us and my father during schooling time.. cos she always complaint we did not help up at home. But, still she has never fail to prepare our daily needs and 3 meals.. i guess just a way to vent all her frustration from work and life and three kids.

really not easy to be a good mummy. but i guess i'll just play it cool. try to adjust and improve as each day comes. challenging duty. i still think working is easier.. haaaa..

Anger Management

I've been losing it recently.. i shouted till my voice coarse..i've been rough on her by pulling her hand hard to make her walk or do things i want her to do.. so it ended with crying/screaming.. i hate it.. but i cant control it when at that very moment, my anger just rush up and missy's reluctance to obey drive me up the wall..

I know i've got to change this and control my anger.. sometimes, im thinking so what if she refuse to brush her teeth.so what if she refuse to bath, so what if she refuse to change her clothes.. so what if she blahhh....list goes on. let her be lor..

But, i try to make sure she has discipline over this daily routine, not when she said "NO" then i let her be. right ? i'm kinda confuse .. not sure what type of parenting im suppose to adopt.. stern ? firm ? then it ended up im "forcing" her to do things.. she at this stage is everything "NO" we have to spend so much time and effort to coax her into doing small things like bathing.. she will be refusing to let us take out her clothes.. even after we manage to take out her clothes she will lie naked on floor, refuse to enter the bath room.. i feel like pulling a stubborn little donkey into the bath room.. sigh... really testing my patience..

Then, yest again, she just pee on the sofa . I was very angry, as she already know she should go toilet for peeing.. but yest she did it twice while her pants is still on. and did it right on the sofa just beside me.. i was piss off.. then she refuse to let maid and LGG to take off her short to wash up.. she just shout and scream.. vey dramatic again.. so when i go to the toilet, i'm just losing it again, i just strip her off, pour the water on her.. the water should be cold.. then drag her out of the toilet to her room to wipe dry. i was shouting at her to tell her, she is wasting my time, she is making thinsg difficult, i cant stand her anymore. she just stand there and cry..

After all the cleaning up, LGG ask her to apologise. she then lie on her bed and cry and keep saying,"sorry mummy, sorry mummy" that somhow soften my heart.. then i gave her a hug, and she is ok again.

but, what am i "teaching" her in this lesson ?? my intention is, if you are not listening to mummy, mummy will be angry, and mummy will be shouting and being rough to you ??

Im confuse...confuse and hate myself for being not able to control my anger.. and hate myself for not being gentle to her. i lover her so much that i try to protect her with all i might.. but why at that spur of the moment,, i cant do so rough to her like pour cold water on her and pull her hard?? i felt heartache..

but, if i go soft on her. will she climb on my head ? how am i going to discipline her ?i always tell LGG< we should not put our hand on her.. meaning no spanking.. cos we adult's strength is unbelieveable to a child so fragile like missy.

I shall improve on this.. i will use other method rather than tempering like smal kid.. hope my action wont have bad impact to her.. i was telling LGG< she shout and scream when we refuse to let her get what she wants. LGG said, must be cos we also shout at her when she refuse to do what we want ?? left me ponder..

Priority to Daddy..

Extracted from one mummy's blog..which i find it meaningful. and which is just what i have thought and try to be with my girl during her growing up days. i always tell LGG.. if i don't buy this and that.. once missy pass this age.. we wont be able to do this and that.. haaa.. so it make sense.

"I had just gotten focused on my workload for the day... when my 8-year-old daughter walked into my office, having just finished her shower, her hair still wet, and wearing one of her prettiest dresses.

In her innocent daddy-loving voice, she asked me the question she usually does when she's all clean and dressed for the day...

"Daddy, can you brush my hair?"

In an almost kneejerk response, I was about to say..."No, not today, sweetie. I've got a lot of work to do. Run back upstairs and brush your hair or ask Mom to help you."

But just before the words left my brain and proceeded out through my mouth, something grabbed the reigns of my heart and ran a thought to my mind... "Don't say that. If you tell her 'no', you are communicating to her that your work is more important than she is right now. Is that what you want your daughter to believe?! Remember, you've only got so many more times to brush her hair before she's too old to ask you. If you don't do it this time, you've lost one of those chances."

So, resolving that probably not all of my "to-do list" would get done today, I said, "Sure, I'll brush your hair" and proceeded to take her purple brush and remove one wet tangle after another until her golden blonde hair was all straight and smooth.

I'm not telling you this story to pat myself on the back, but to share a real-world story and encourage YOU with your own children. When we tell our children "I love you"... but our actions communicate otherwise... we confuse our children, damage our credibility with them, and ultimately lose their heart.

As dads, we must make the most of every opportunity to communicate to each of our children how much we love them. Often. We must let our actions show them that they take priority over our work.

There will always be more work to do. But our children are more important.

(By Joey Watkins)

Weekend activities -Oct #2

Time fliess.. second weekend of October already. Geess.. what have i done so far ? i still have many unfinished projects.. darn.. i just wish i can be motivated more to carry out than to procrastinate !

This weekend plan to get my Guess Hand bag but ended up speding most time either at PIL's or sis's home..

Missy gets to play in playground for the very first time, as i think now it's time. i try not to expose her to playground as it may not be clean. She is very 'daring' she climbs the steps.. crawl over the tunnels.. crawl up crawl down.. i go with her to thr slides, she is just smiles and no sign of fear.. OMG .. my girl is rather daring huh ! somehow i sense that after our JBCG's trip. she never even show any sign of fear at all the plays there.. 1 year old .. maybe don't know the danger of anything yet..shall see


Sunday, we revisit her swimming at home. once i put her in, shejust splash and kick and splah and kick.. full of energy. and one of the photo i find it so amusing. after changing her into her swim suit which she seems to fit it better now, she just walks about in the house while waiting for the pool to be filled up. She walks and stop at the mirror in the living room, and i happened to snap one of her photo. see.. not a bad pose huh ! but her hair really cannot make it ! ghaa.. like just wake up like that. we are keeping her hait long, so have to bear with the half length now..



Sunday went to sis's place. brought back some of the carpets left there last time. thought it'll be good now as missy can play in those carpetted area. Montessori mentioned that children should have a define area for play. so i shall start montessori at home.

As for the playgroup. dunno waht to say. those mummies who initially showed so much interested but when we said ok, can we start this weekend? no news at all. no email reply, no sms. well. i dont like to force people. and i don't think playgroup should start with mummies who is not serious. Thus, i never contact them again.

anyway, i will keep looking for interested mummies to start a playgroup on weekends. missy still have plenty of time till we form a playgroup. Playgroup is beneficial to toddler from age 3 onwards. Montessori prefer a mixture young and small.

Happy Parenting !

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If you have more 'a' answers, then you are likely an authoritarian parent.
If you have more 'b' answers, then you are likely a permissive parent.
If you have more 'c' answers, then you are likely an authoritative parent.
If you have equal amounts of 'a', 'b' or 'c' answers, then you have a mixed style of parenting.

An authoritarian parent 'attempts to control a child's behavior and attitudes, stressing the importance of obedience to authority and discouraging discussion. Parents who use this method tend to rely upon punishment, which is often spanking or other physical measures'.

A permissive parent 'exercises minimal control. Children of permissive parents are allowed to set their own schedules and activities. Permissive parents generally do not demand the same levels of behavior as authoritarian and authoritative parents'.

An authoritative parent 'operates on the belief that both the child and the parent have certain rights and that the needs of both are important. The parent is sure that she is in control and doesn't need to assert physical force to keep the child on the right track. Rather, an authoritative parent is more likely to control her child by setting rules and explaining why these rules are important and why they must be followed'.