Marriage -Rules for Disagreements

LGG sent me these which i find it useful and should try to abide to these so-called rules.

1. No Criticism

2. No name-calling or labeling

3. Stick to the subject
- Don't raise other issues to prove a point

4. Avoid absolutes like "you always", "you never" or "every time"

5. Agree to disagree
- Differences are not an obstacle to being intimate, but how you handle the differences can be.

6. Remember to love
- The person you are having conflicts with is not your enemy. He/she is the person whom you love and chose to marry.

7. Know when to stop
- When all you want to do is hurt your partner, or when one or both of you are out of control, it is time to stop the argument. Arrange for another time to resolve the issue.

8. When you find yourselves stuck in repetitive negative cycles of interactions, it is better to seek professional help
- Don't wait till the problem gets too big to handle.

9. Settle any argument before going to bed
- If it is impossible to do so, schedule another time and place to resolve the issue.

One of the hallmarks of a successful relationship is the ability to resolve conflicts effectively and in a way that is satisfactory to both partners. Many couples report that working successfully together in resolving conflicts brings them closer and create warm loving feelings. Try to practice all the steps and rules mentioned, and let conflicts bring the two of you closer, not further apart.

Being a girlfriend is more relax than being wife and mother ar.. so much things need to learn.. *head os getting bigger* but look at the bright side, unlikely i will get "Lao Ren chi dai zhen" aka Alzheimer .. kekeke